It has been a while since I’ve written an article, and that is mainly because I’ve been really caught up with my GRE preparations. Anyway, so, today I would like to write about ‘False Promises and Deserted Hopes’.
So I’m pretty sure you’ve all been in positions wherein you’re compelled to make a promise because you want to prove to the other person that you’re being genuine. But because you just want to prove it to the person at that instant, you don’t basically register it in your long term memory and hence tend to forget it. This is one type of a False Promise, which to be honest, most of us make. For example, you’re going on a vacation and you promise your neighbor you’d get them something as a souvenir. Now you know you wouldn’t remember, and even your neighbor knows you’re saying it just out of formality, and so they don’t pay any heed to it.
The second type is when you make a genuine heart-to-heart promise to your best friend, sibling, family member or for that matter a human being. The problem with this one is, you and the person involved, know that you’ve made an ‘unbreakable vow’, and that you must move mountains if necessary, but you cannot under any circumstances break this promise. This is what makes it so much more deep and meaningful. This what ensures that your long term memory remembers this promise and maneuvers a way around your daily routine so that you can definitely fulfill this promise.
Now, no matter what you do, the more heart-to-heart promises you make, the more your life is going to get difficult. That is why, when you make a promise, you should weigh the pros and cons and keep in mind the emotions and sentiments that go with it.
I’m writing about this, because recently I went for dinner with two of my best friends from my school. We were a group of five boys, who were the best of friends. We had promised each other that we would meet up once a month on a Friday, and catch up. But sadly only three of us stayed true to the promise. So ,the other day, we were reminiscing about the good old days, when we were so naive that we believed we would all meet every month. And worst of all, the other two ‘friends’ constantly kept us hanging, giving us false hopes about eventually meeting us.
I haven’t ever understood people who break promises and then give false hopes, to only let us down further. I mean, grow a pair, be honest, and just admit that it’s not easy to keep up with promises. Its true folks, trust me on this, if ever you end up not living up to your promise, be brave and admit your mistake, if your relationship is strong enough, it’ll survive this minor setback. These little things are crucial to maintain a strong and steady relationship, be it with your family, friends, siblings, girlfriend/boyfriend, DOG, co-workers. Stay honest, be bold, make mistakes. You’re only human.
Nameless Old Monk.